Thursday, March 19, 2009

The decision....?

Dilemma…

Making decision is sometimes easy..sometimes difficult…and our decision making this time is the toughest we faced….

To accept or not to accept?

To quit or not to quit?

To move or not to move?

To work or to stay at home?

To work on my own or to be hired as someone else employee?

To start a business or to do freelance?

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hemmmm...remember this story?

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At first, Ayah made his 1st decision to accept the new job offer in Lumut. Once he informed me about that, I went to the housing developer of B** U** to ask about the vacancy of their 3rd phase project. I was lucky that there were a few lots available to be booked. Well, we have been eyeing for this house for quite some time(since last year – the 1st and 2nd phase) but as we were still not sure to settle down here or not…we just kept the desire inside. I was so excited (the kids as well) that we often went to the decorated show house to enjoy the view of the interior design of it while at the same time absorbing some ideas for our future new home.



Unfortunately, very recently, Ayah made his final decision of not accepting the offer. Well, after he considered and took into account a lot and lottttttttttttttttttt of factors…did istikharah prayer etc….This is not simple…seriously! Some said that we are the kind of people who prefer to live in KL and be ‘KL’an?’KL’ian? The one who do not want to sacrifice things and just want to live easy life …hey…!!! That hurts you know!!!This is our life….let us make the decision for our own sake!!!Yeah, sometimes friends are the ones that we rely on…but sometimes, friends that we hope to give us support might come up with those sayings….ouch….so pathetic……….



I will always remember what my former superior(a man with respect) here said to (many..many times).....'Tempat Seorang Isteri Adalah di sisi Suaminya dan Tempat Seorang Anak Adalah di sisi Ibunya'....without that, a family institution may be ruined....I can still recall his sayings....he was really agianst the fact that I was here alone without my husband and my kids(at that time...for one year in fact!)



At this point of time, after being stranded here for TWO years without hubby around…I’m quite used to the ‘dead’ environment here…it’s true…this is a very simple and easy life…I’m used to that(though my heart is as cold as an iceberg....and EMPTY as well)…ku redha….finally, I can accept to settle down here …if hubby accept that offer…



Now that the decision is to move back to KL…I have to think of something…

I would really love to work on my own…but I’m not so sure in which area would that be…my interests are more towards…cooking…food….babies…breastfeeding and the list go on and on…I am still thinking…and thinking…and thinking……if you happen to have any idea on this big question mark…please do not hesitate to leave a comment…suggestions pleaseeee…………….

9 comments:

  1. saya tak de idea nak bg tau akak..tp saya tumpang marah sekali pada saper yg kata pasal orang yg biasa keja KL dan tak berani keluar dari KL..
    :(..

    setiap keluarga mempunyai lifestyle nyer sendiri...aper2 hal pun saya always support akak..

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  2. thanks lin
    u always understand me
    tula...sedey gak bila org ckp gitu
    glemer sgt ke kalo duk kl?bukannya dapat elaun lebih pon :) hikhik

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  3. k.ina...

    ni plan saya nnt tp nk kongsi... buka nursery jaga budak.... kena amik course dlm 3bulan full time xsilap, boleh refer jkm utk mklumat lnjut...

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  4. Salam KIna,
    dulu saya pun pernah separate ngan busband,back then 2001 tapi I choose to quit the job duduk ngan hubby. Skang nie settle down kat kl, tapi I prefer working outside kl, lebih aman, tenteram. tak la jammed macam sekarang. Ooo how I miss that time, kuar lambat lagi 10minutes pun bole sampai office.Tapi if u choose to settle down kat kl, kalu kat kl jual apa pun laku.. nak2 yang sedap2, setuju jugak ngan lia kat atas tu, ngan MARA pun boleh dapat pinjaman.
    Tapi apa2 pun its your decision,

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  5. salam

    teman tak pandai nak beri cadangan sbb teman pun most of the time di rumah.. buat kerja freelance pun, bila ade org bagi kerja.. kalo takde kerja part time.. dok umah jer lah.. pikir tentang anak2, camner nak develop depa including homeschool sblm betul2 masuk sekolah.. life i memang simple habis.. hall kosong.. rumah pun takde decor apa2.. definitely sbb i tak nak berhutang & live dgn apa yg ade.. bukan malas, tp biarlah begini dulu, lagipun i rasa cukup & lapang dgn apa ygbade..

    u hv to decide apa yg u suka buat.. buka nursery is okay, tp list down pro & con..
    at least buat SWOT analisis untuk semua perkara yg u terpikir nak buat.. one u decide untk jadi WAHM, permulaan memang lah perit...

    cth u kan pandai buat donat.. why not survey kantin sekolah, brp sek yg ada in 10 km radius in Semenyih.. then g la visit, tgk ade tak org hantor donat.. kalo takde, then mula lah ngorak langkah.. byk jenis donat u leh buat.. donat bercoklat, & what ever lah dressing nya.. ni cth jer..

    pandai buat kek/bakery.. u start dgn online.. bila donut dah okay & dah kenal ramai org, mesti dah dpt promosi dr mulut ke mulut.. kek pun boleh up..

    oppsss.. hihi, pjg plak idea nyer, td kata tak reti nak suggest.. i ni berangan byk benda nak buat.. tp sbb $$$ problem, so i tumpu pd apa yg perlu i buat dulu.. anak2, sbb 3-3 kenit2 lagi.. u pulak bertuah, anak2 dah besor..

    so start list down ur priority & what u like to do.. do SWOT..

    my 2 cent

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  6. lia...

    ada gak terpikir pasal nursery nih...boleh masuk as one of my options gak..thanks ye

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  7. nadnye...

    tulah..skrg ni kuar umah kol 7.55...kol 8.00 dah sampai opis..mmg heaven la...tapi smp bila nak hidup camni kan?hemmm...

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  8. bib...

    yeah SWOT analysis...i'll definitely will need that..ada a few options in mind..eg. husband suggest buka kelas tuisyen...hem..then at the same time i can do part time teaching at colleges...masih dalam pertimbangan...ada about 6-7 months to decide

    thanks bib

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  9. THANKS TO ALL YG PRIHATIN DAN MEMBERI CADANGAN+SOKONGAN


    LUV U ALL

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